Spent the entire day by myself. Not that I was shunning people, I asked for company on several occasions....it just worked out that way. Found the Barnes and Noble in Carmel right beside an Office Max and Don Pablos. Went to all three without moving the car. Found Kelly's new job site (I think) and maybe a back way to it that would save her a few minutes. Got a little bit of homework completed and some research started. A good day. The extra hour's sleep was a bonus, but it's going to get dark awfully early this week.
Here's something I have to get creative with....when waitresses (usually young one's ...late teens or early 20's) address me as "Hon" or "Honey". Granted they introduce themselves by their first name and assume that that transparency puts them on a higher level but they don't ask my name or the names of my dining companions....so where does it become acceptable to address me by a condescending form of endearment by someone who is waiting on me and doesn't know my name until I pay with a debit card. (she wouldn't know my name at all if it were a cash transaction!) Also, this seems to be a female phenomen only. I am not sure how to address this issue (I won't call it a problem, because some people must like it). 1) I could squarely say "Please don't call me Hon" and risk having my food and drink contaminated. 2) I could reflect my displeasure in the tip, but would that be fair in that the wait staff would not know ahead of time that was the rule? 3) I could leave a note saying that the flippant term of endearment is offensive. 4) Return each "hon" with an "OK...Toots" (this is my preference since it would be a way for me to be retaliatory but the same food contamination possibility exists see #1 above) or finally 5) Suck it up and enjoy a meal out and forget about the wait staff. Suggestions are welcomed....and yes I've been accused by live-in family members of being entirely too sensitive, but I just don't appreciate being called "hon".
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My suggestion: introduce yourself. When waitress says "My name's Mary" you can say "Hi Mary, please call me Susan." If she happens to slip and call you hon again, say (in a kidding voice) "Mary, what did I tell you?" Europeans crack up at the fact that wait staff wear name tags AND tell us their names.
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